If you want to break up with secret lover,please try to say like this.
"My (sexual) disease have come to light"
"I have a money problem" or "My spouse found out our affair and may sue you".
Your affair partner will leave you soon.
In short,cheating on your wife/husband is really bad in a spiritual point of view.
There is no happy story in love affair and it causes all destruction.
That is not an exaggeration.
I'll explain about the spiritual negative impacts and I want people to stop doing the meaningless things.
First of all,marriage is a strong contract between you and your partner's ancestors.
When you were married,both ancestors and parents celebrated your new step of life.
You are under the agreement.
And IF you are a woman and you change your last name in marriage,
your ancestor line is switched to husband's.
It is really interesting phenomenon.
So,most married women are under a guard of husband's ancestors.
Ancestors are always protecting and watching their descendants to keep the family line.
It is an instinctive act to protect children.
Most of your luck depends on your own efforts but special luck is always given from ancestors.
Spiritual energy for your life comes from your parents,ancestors,nature, the Earth,
the Sun,and the Universe(GOD).
Do not forget the seamless line of power source.
You can't see your ancestors but their spirits are staying in an another world until they start a next life.
And they know everything what you do and think
because you are the concentration of all your ancestor's DNA.
DNA = Spiritual connection with all your ancestors
When you are cheating on your partner,
your ancestors are annoyed so much and they want you to stop the thing.
Even if you are happy with your boy or girlfriend.
As mentioned above,ancestor is always thinking about only descendant's benefits and profits.
Let's say,you and your secret lover have own family.
This is so bad and there is a spiritual-conflicts between your ancestor,wife's ancestor and
lover's ancestors to stop the affair.
Ancestor's anxiety causes energy/power shortage of descendants includes your kids.
I mean your secret bad act causes negative impacts to everyone in your family line.
Ancestors can cause diseases,accidents or injuries on naughty you,your partner,kids,your secret lover,or lover's partner.
Because serious problem may stop your love affair.
Affair is just "Hobby of Sex".
The hobby is unfair because it is behind many contracts.
To tell the truth,punishment by ancestor is against the god's rules and
ancestor's lank/level will become worse in an another world.
But they can't help punishing unfair descendant
because they already know having affair is too high risk.
If your family breaks,kids may lose some beneficial opportunity.
Good school,education,house...etc.
Children can't resist the worse situation by themselves.
Ruined families make a unstable country.
Love affair is serious crime indeed.
For women,free sex is so bad because woman's genital easily get spiritual negative impacts by man.
It causes sad life in old ages,poor and unclean looks.
Each family line has different energy level of good/bad luck
and sex damages woman if there is a difference level of power.
If a man have sex both his wife and girlfriend,
there is a mucous conflict between two ladies and causes women's diseases.
Even if a man uses a condom or wash his body after an affair,
the lover's energy doesn't disappear for a while.(At least 1 week)
In spiritual point of view,his wife and lover are having lesbian sex because of the man.
Same-sex Sex easily causes chemical reaction of destruction.
This is not discrimination.
In addition,
vengeful spiritual energies occur from each family members besides ancestor's interference.
I mean,your spouse and kid's spirits already know about your affair unconsciously
and their spirit become unstable.
Their part of energy visit you and your girlfriend to stop an affair.
This causes power shortages to all concerned.
A family is sacred space more than you think.
Please cherish your root of life.
Unstable spirit of human is called Ikiryou in Japan.
Human's spirit need to stay in own body.